How to Properly Deal With Common Stepmom Stressors
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I remember when my husband and I were just STARTING our blended family and there were so many new stepmom stressors that hit me, almost daily.
I never knew that many Stepmom Stressors existed but you find new ones when you actually become a Stepmom all the time(at least in the beginning)
I can recall this specific Stepmom Stressor more than others and I have to deal with this one every time we meet someone new!
You know that dreaded question… “how many kids do you have?”
My brain naturally has a tiny panic attack, not because of anyone in my family but because Stepmoms are held under this massive double standard and one wrong word would leave me on the front page of the “bash Stepmoms mag”!!
If I Answer 2 then it seems like I don’t claim/love/care about my stepson if say 3, I get that sermon about having so many kids that early and then tons of unwanted questions [esp since my bio daughter and bonus son are only 14 months apart in age]
Also, if I say 3 they wonder why the difference in last names and the list truly goes on and on
So what is a Stepmom supposed to do in that situation?
I include my husband in my answer, whether he is present or not! My answer would sound like this…
We have three children! 2 girls and 1 boy[or vice versa].
Then if they STILL need further clarifying (hopefully not but you know how people are) I continue with,
My husband and I have three kids, we both have a child from previous relationships and then we have one together.
After that, I am usually WAY past the talking mood and try to excuse myself out of that conversation before it gets any deeper!!
So what about you?
Have you been faced with this specific Stepmom Stressor before? How did you deal with it? Let me know in the comments below!!
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